So, it’s not even Summer anymore! But I lost this book for 2 months, then looked at the library (to no avail) then finally found it this week. It’s our very last book in the summer reading party. So if you prefer reading in the fall vs. summer season, this is perfect!
Daring Greatly by Brene Brown might have seemed like an odd fit for our summer reading party. There is about 0% talk of personal finance. No budgeting help. No investment advice. Not even a word on minimalism, mini-retirements or rentals. Nadda.
Wait, why the heck did I pick this book?!?
The reason is simple. You are figuring out this money thing for a reason. Whatever that reason is. And I can almost bet that whatever your reason, that deep, honest, true reason is, you will need to Dare Greatly to get there. Having the money stuff figured out will help. But if you have BIG dreams and goals, you will also face BIG fear, shame, and vulnerability.
Just sharing your BIG goals with a close friend pulls all that out of you. If you’ve taken one of my courses or done the mentoring questions on your own, you know it’s scary to write that stuff down. Let alone share it! Well, stepping out and actually doing it won’t be any easier. Trust me. There will be a whole bunch of people who will question, disagree and criticize any and all big moves you make.
Here is a short snippet from Brene’s book (We are on a first name basis!):
“Vulnerability is not weakness, and the uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional. Our only choice is a question of engagement. Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection.
When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make.
Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience. We must walk into the arena, whatever it might be- a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation- with courage and the willingness to engage. Rather than sitting on the sidelines and hurling judgment and advice, we must dare to show up and let ourselves be seen. This is vulnerability. This is daring greatly.”
There are things that matter to us. That alone is a vulnerable space to live in. When we step out and say, “This matters. This is a priority. This is central to my purpose. And these other things I’m giving up to get the thing that matters just aren’t important to me.” Someone will disagree. Not understand. Not be supportive. Throw advice at you. Try to use shame to steer you off your path and back onto theirs.
One of the most daring, courageous things we can do is simply to “show up and let ourselves be seen.”
This applies to our budgets, investments, free time, projects we take on and the ones we say no to, and ultimately the impact we leave on this world.
It’s very possible to “squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make” by simply fitting in.
Every single good thing in my life, everything I am grateful for, proud of, or I value have come by the same means: showing up, letting myself be seen, daring greatly, then pushing aside the fear, shame and pressure to fit in.
It’s less than $10 right now on Amazon. I can’t imagine a better way to spend $10 and 3 hours of your life. And just like the rest of the books, I’ll be drawing a name from my email list to win a copy (yeah, my emails are fun!).
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